There’s no frame around our life
I kinda know I live something completely incredible when I am somehow lost, without my usual emotional or rational markers… and it happened to me last weekend!
As many of you already know, we have treated ourselves with a very special place of our own that we call the “Secret Family Cult Club”. We are building in it a community with anyone who desires to live something closer or just different with the band, but not only with us. It’s also a unique way to connect with other people that are in love with music and in love with the idea of being a part of something bigger than ourselves (and this “Bigger” thing is not the band, but the community we are building all together and the impact we can have by joining our forces).
We are always in touch with everyone on the different social media platforms and that gives us the opportunity to get to know each other virtually before we get to see each other LIVE (which will come soon my friends…SOON!!!) In a beautiful way, the SFCC allows us to interact with you on another level. As an example, last weekend we had what we call a “digital date”. This is a live chat on a protected USTREAM channel exclusive for the SFCC members. In a beautiful way, it’s completely different from what we live during a Bla Bla Bla live chat, each of these have their own amazing aspects and the “digital date” is an opportunity for us to talk directly with you in such an intimate setting. I felt like we were all in a cozy living room, old friends who are living everything together, each ready to accept each other as we are and each desiring to listen and share in that peaceful and so deeply meaningful moment we are creating.
We had the chance to answer very interesting questions and to take our time, no rush, and to go even deeper in what we wanted to expose about the song “Where Did We Lose Each Other” and its meaning in our life. For me, this digital date surprised me about what was possible for us to live, what kind of love we can share… who would have thought that by connecting in a live chat it would attach us to each other in that powerful way??? So many things I don’t understand…lol And so many levels of love I discover through you… Nobody told me about that kind of love!lol
Maybe are you like me, trying to fit the people of our lives in boxes? And then we get frustrated or bitter if the person doesn’t fill in the whole square we determined… we feel a void… we feel incomplete if all the little boxes that are supposed to be in our life don’t wear a name tag… the spouse box, the best friend box, the good mother box, the supporting sister box, the X-box (sorry… I had to…lol) But then… we are all lost when we have to put the people we feel attached to on the SFCC or all of you with who we share “virtually”… what is the name of that box? the “virtual friend” box? The “sister I have never seen” box? It doesn’t match! You guys are so much more than anything I can describe…I can’t put you guys in a box!!! In fact, every time I live my life by putting people in boxes, I feel unsatisfied, running breathlessly to fill illusionary voids.
Someone told me “There’s no frame around our life” and I believe it’s true. The more I try to control my universe, the more I choke anything that would want to bloom in it. If there’s no frame, that means I have an infinite life of learning, experimenting, laughing and crying…but no boxes. How can I define myself then? How do I know if my life is complete? How do I know if I can stop running after something I can’t even describe or explain? I believe the love I pour out deliberately is what defines me and it’s my faith in the true essence of love that defines my life. Since I can’t control or manipulate the love of others for me, I can’t put anything in boxes… I can only be thankful, careful with that precious gift and let it live freely in my heart, in my every day life. When some people stop pouring love in my life, I have to let them go… When the love I pour out for someone is rejected and falls down splashing on the ground, I again have to let go and remind myself that loving is never useless, but expecting something in return is selfish. Gosh…I’m so selfish…so many times…
How do you find the courage and the freedom to experience love in all its different forms?
And for those of you who were with us in that “SFCC living room”, were you as surprised as me to feel such peace? Did you feel that indescribable love that welcomed us to open up like never before?
I wish to read you…I am always so touched to read your hearts and next week I would love to answer your posts!!!
-Miss Isabel
Tags: Miss Isabel's Diary, Music, YFE, Your Favorite Enemies
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Dina
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Oh my sweet, loving Miss Isabel,
You never cease to inspire and amaze me. This right here along with Samantha truly spoke to me not only as a person but as a woman as well. Us woman define ourselves by our roles or “boxes”. We must be the good wife, good mother, good friend, good sister, good daughter, good teacher..the list could go on and on. We are taught at a young age that our duties are to our families and to be the heart and soul of our homes. That is our role and that is our purpose, even to this day. These boxes then lend themselves not only to gender but to race, sexual orientation, ethncitiy and age and so on. If we allow society or these boxes to define who we are we no longer are able to be open to our own true essence, that little voice deep inside of us that is our truth. These boxes are allowed to be a part of us but must never be the whole of us. Now I am not saying this is easy, not in the slightest, but knowing and realizing that this exists gives you the power to recognize it and re-evaluate where you are coming from and where you want to grow into. This, not unlike life inself is an everchanging and evolving journey. As we grow as individuals so do the number of boxes that try to shape and define us. The secret I think is to find the balance between your roles and your essence because in the center of all of that is the true you! Luv you sweets!! xxoo Dina
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Cassandra Baliey
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Isabel you are a wonder and an inspiration and have incredible courage and spirit. I’m someone who doesn’t fit into any box and I fully feel what you are writing about. As someone who has been accepted by you in spite of my not fitting in any box, I can only say it fills my heart to know you. You’re terrific.
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Elizabeth
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Hi dearest Isa!!! I love this!!!! It is as beautiful and welcoming as your own heart and spirit!! And the comments that have already preceded mine are sweet evidence that others are feeling the warmth and safety of this place too! Here we can accept the challenge of releasing other people and ourselves and our relationships from our “preconceived limiting boxes” – who knows what wonders we will discover here together!! Can’t wait to find out – the beginning is a sweet sweet taste..
love you and believe in you always!! you know it!!! mom e
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Max
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We’re all so selfish… That’s human nature and it’s very ugly!
But what I liked about the Digital Date is that you guys are able to accept that you are ugly… talk about it… And from that move forward! I believe that THIS is repentance!!
And I also believe that this is exactly the soul of ”Where Did We Lose Each Other”!
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Sals
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OMG – Thank you Miss Isabel!!! I think you just inspired my next photoshoot!!! Thank you for sparking my creativity!!! I can’t wait to show you – if it all turns out….
Love Sals
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Samantha
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I think you really hit something there with the idea of trying to fit your relationships into neat little boxes and how when you try to do that all you feel is dissatisfaction. The thing with those boxes is that they’re not real.. I don’t mean as in the physical sense.. actually it might be easier if they were physical boxes.. LOL (though I do not advise that you try) but they’re not based on real life and are not authentic. People aren’t these perfect robots that fulfill specific duties all the time.. we’re so much more complex and it gets even more complex when it comes to relationships. That’s the beauty though.. when you can just let go of those ideals of how things “should” be and just be real that’s when you open yourself up to the realness of a relationship. Don’t get so hung up on the definitions because that’s when you’ll start restricting yourself again. Just be willing to give and receive love freely and act consistant with the things that inspire you the most.. that is when you’ll feel the most free and empowered =) I love you sweet sister and am here for you and beside you in this journey of personal growth. <3 I am also growing little by little with victories and missteps along the way
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